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On the Power of Grief: When Feeling Pain Is Healing
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I don’t know if it’s just me, but one of the phases I went through in my “healing”—God, I hate this word—journey, was acting tough. But not merely acting tough. Finding that it’s useful to have this sort of “don’t fuck with me” demeanour, and in a twisted way, it…
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When you’ve been criticized your whole life, even feedback can feel like an attack
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One of the ways growing up in an unsupportive or invalidating environment affects us is that we can become very sensitive to criticism. We get so accustomed to people having a poor impression of us that we almost always predict others will have a negative opinion of us too. When…
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The Fight Trauma Response: Being Stuck in Criticizing and Attacking Others
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The fight trauma response is rarely observed in moments of introspection. It takes an honest and brave person to notice themselves fiercely attacking others with bad jokes, sarcasm, insults, or even outright violence. But what exactly is this response, and how does it impact relationships? What is the Fight Trauma…