Author: Miriam

And why a facilitator makes all the difference Nobody knows, on a deeper and more visceral level, what it means to be betrayed by the world quite like someone with attachment wounds. The very connection that should have uplifted us and supported our development was the very thing that broke…

Anger is not aggression. Anger is not abuse. Sometimes it can lead to abusive behaviors, but more often than not, anger is an emotion. You just feel it and ask a question: Why am I feeling this way? Am I being disrespected at the moment? Do I feel in danger?…

When was the last time you’ve been embarrassing and you’ve allowed yourself to be seen? Now, if you are anything like me, your life is riddled with not so gracious, wish-I-could-forget moments. But that’s not what I am talking about. I am talking about not hiding those moments. Not hiding…

Now you are here. How did you get here? You look around and you see people who are more successful than you, healthier, in loving relationships. People who go out on a Friday night. Perhaps you go out as well, if only the people who you meet would know you…

I don’t know if it’s just me, but one of the phases I went through in my “healing”—God, I hate this word—journey, was acting tough. But not merely acting tough. Finding that it’s useful to have this sort of “don’t fuck with me” demeanour, and in a twisted way, it…

One of the ways growing up in an unsupportive or invalidating environment affects us is that we can become very sensitive to criticism. We get so accustomed to people having a poor impression of us that we almost always predict others will have a negative opinion of us too. When…

The fight trauma response is rarely observed in moments of introspection. It takes an honest and brave person to notice themselves fiercely attacking others with bad jokes, sarcasm, insults, or even outright violence. But what exactly is this response, and how does it impact relationships? What is the Fight Trauma…

What Happens After Betrayal and Abuse Betrayal and abuse leave deep scars, often manifesting in patterns that keep individuals stuck in emotional pain. These patterns typically include: How Does the Worldview of a Victim Change After Toxic Relationships? Experiencing betrayal, emotional manipulation, and lies doesn’t just hurt in the moment.…

There’s a lot of talk about childhood trauma and how your relationship with your parents impacts how you approach relationships as an adult. But what does that really mean? For many, this idea feels vague. At first glance, you might think, “My relationships now look nothing like the ones I…