Author: Miriam

I don’t know if it’s just me, but one of the phases I went through in my “healing”—God, I hate this word—journey, was acting tough. But not merely acting tough. Finding that it’s useful to have this sort of “don’t fuck with me” demeanour, and in a twisted way, it…

One of the ways growing up in an unsupportive or invalidating environment affects us is that we can become very sensitive to criticism. We get so accustomed to people having a poor impression of us that we almost always predict others will have a negative opinion of us too. When…

The fight trauma response is rarely observed in moments of introspection. It takes an honest and brave person to notice themselves fiercely attacking others with bad jokes, sarcasm, insults, or even outright violence. But what exactly is this response, and how does it impact relationships? What is the Fight Trauma…

What Happens After Betrayal and Abuse Betrayal and abuse leave deep scars, often manifesting in patterns that keep individuals stuck in emotional pain. These patterns typically include: How Does the Worldview of a Victim Change After Toxic Relationships? Experiencing betrayal, emotional manipulation, and lies doesn’t just hurt in the moment.…

There’s a lot of talk about childhood trauma and how your relationship with your parents impacts how you approach relationships as an adult. But what does that really mean? For many, this idea feels vague. At first glance, you might think, “My relationships now look nothing like the ones I…

Unique Challenges in Seeking Help: People suffering from trauma are vulnerable. Depending on what they had to do to survive as children or teenagers, they may exhibit different coping styles. Some may be “fawn types”—overly agreeable people who end up in dangerous situations by ignoring red flags. Others may become…