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On the Power of Grief: When Feeling Pain Is Healing
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I don’t know if it’s just me, but one of the phases I went through in my “healing”—God, I hate this word—journey, was acting tough. But not merely acting tough. Finding that it’s useful to have this sort of “don’t fuck with me” demeanour, and in a twisted way, it…
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When you’ve been criticized your whole life, even feedback can feel like an attack
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One of the ways growing up in an unsupportive or invalidating environment affects us is that we can become very sensitive to criticism. We get so accustomed to people having a poor impression of us that we almost always predict others will have a negative opinion of us too. When…
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The things we do out of loneliness
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I think one of the most important skills one can develop is critical thinking and truth-seeking. We are often bombarded with thousands of messages about what is and is not normal, what is and is not healthy, how women are, how men are, and what to expect from others. And…
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The Fight Trauma Response: Being Stuck in Criticizing and Attacking Others
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The fight trauma response is rarely observed in moments of introspection. It takes an honest and brave person to notice themselves fiercely attacking others with bad jokes, sarcasm, insults, or even outright violence. But what exactly is this response, and how does it impact relationships? What is the Fight Trauma…
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Finding Love After Betrayal and Abuse: How to Navigate Unsafe Waters
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What Happens After Betrayal and Abuse Betrayal and abuse leave deep scars, often manifesting in patterns that keep individuals stuck in emotional pain. These patterns typically include: How Does the Worldview of a Victim Change After Toxic Relationships? Experiencing betrayal, emotional manipulation, and lies doesn’t just hurt in the moment.…
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Why Yoga and Meditation Can’t Fully Regulate Your Nervous System
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Let’s talk about nervous system regulation and quick fixes like meditation, yoga, and journaling. While these practices offer short-term relief, they can sometimes distract us from addressing the bigger picture. The ultimate goal should be to achieve a long-term sense of safety that naturally allows your body to relax—not just…
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What’s Up with Psychology, Parents, and Your Love Life?
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There’s a lot of talk about childhood trauma and how your relationship with your parents impacts how you approach relationships as an adult. But what does that really mean? For many, this idea feels vague. At first glance, you might think, “My relationships now look nothing like the ones I…
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Do emotional abusers know what they are doing?
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Emotional abusers often have responses that seem divorced from reality, and their words twist the truth so intensely that it suggests they can’t perceive reality like the rest of us. If you find yourself torn between thinking that an emotionally abusive person in your life knows what they’re doing and…
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Here’s why giving avoidants space is a bad, bad piece of advice
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Allowing your avoidant partner to come and go on a whim only fulfills their needs and completely neglects yours. Key takeaways: If you suspect your partner is dismissive-avoidant or fearful-avoidant, giving them the space necessary almost feels like a life hack. They always bounce back with enthusiasm. However, is it…
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New Evidence Shows That Untreated Trauma Could be at the Root of PCOS
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Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is the most common endocrine disorder in women of reproductive age. However, ask any PCOS sufferer, and you’ll soon find out that despite how often women get diagnosed with it, specialists are yet to find a way for women diagnosed with it to live a more…